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Wednesday, June 15, 2005

Sticking Together

Today Larry and I celebrated our 37th Wedding Anniversary. For all you couples out there who have enjoyed a long term marriage, please tell the young couples just how it's done. They could use the advice.


Anonymous Marc said...

Sally-Congratulations! I thought Teresa and i were old timers with 27 years.A real accomplishment these days.

7:51 PM  
Anonymous Sallyann said...

Marc: Do you and Teresa have any insights on "being married" to share with the young ones?

8:09 PM  
Anonymous Marc said...

Sally- I dont have the elusive miracle formula but i can say it takes standing behind each other at the difficult times in your life.Having a supportive spouse when the chips are down is something you will always look back on and appreciate.Remember that when you have money problems it affects both of you even if you feel the burden is soley on your shoulders.Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence but true happiness comes from the person you have grown with for many years.Remember your spouse has seen you at your best and worse but is always by your side.P.S. after several years you both know how to push the others buttons.NEVER turn on the power to the button!

8:51 PM  
Anonymous Historian said...

Congratulations -both of you,but we have you beat. Dick and I celebrated 51 years on Sunday. 4 children,2 great sons-inlaws- 8 grandchildren later, we wonder where the time went.
My files have articles on quite a few Lindley couples who have been married longer than us. Maybe it is the good life we live here.

10:29 PM  
Anonymous Sallyann said...

I loved the "don't turn on the power button" remark. So true. Lar and I live by these rules: Sometimes he has "no opinion" and sometimes I have to "get in the truck."

11:24 PM  
Anonymous Gerry said...

Congratulations on 37 years. Jake and I have been married for 42 years. You have to stick together when raising children and not let the kids pit you against one another. You also have to put your spouse before your pre-marriage family and not let them interfer. Take time to do fun things together, in other words of you live together you should play together and keep a sense of humor when the hard times are at hand.


9:37 AM  
Anonymous Sallyann said...

During the past 37 years I've spent a lot of time talking with couples whose marriages went sour and I concluded that they really didn't like or respect each other. They'd say they were "in love", but then they'd treat each other like their own worst enemy.

I had a friend once who raised holy hell with her husband because he came home with, get this, donuts on his breath. She was certain he was meeting "another woman" for coffee and donuts in the morning. I asked her how she drew that conclusion with such flimsy evidence. She never found lipstick on his collar or a phone number wadded up in his pants pocket, but she kept insisting he was having an affair. I kept telling her she needed a "smoking gun" before she jumped to such a conclusion. Some couples are destined for divorce. She's working on her third marriage as I write this.

I've always said, it's easier to leave than to stay and work it out.
P.S. Gerry: I remember when you and Jake were "courting". I couldn't wait to get a boyfriend of my own so I could sit next to him in his car like you and Jake did. I was impressionable back then.

10:53 AM  

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